Is affect a product of how we talk about ourselves? Consider one particular shift I've observed lately. It is a new orthodoxy that while men can maintain friendships with each other, women are constantly at one another's throats. This implies a certain emotional intelligence, suggesting that while men can live and let live, roll with the punches, and suss out each other's true meanings. Women, by contrast, are "catty," shallow, mutually destructive . . .